Top 7 Best Ways to Meet Lesbian Singles in 2020

Dating is easier than ever before with so many ways to meet new people. Well, the dating part might not be any easier, but finding other singles certainly is easier.

If you’re single and ready to mingle and you want to connect with lesbian singles, there are more options than ever before.

Introverts might prefer connecting with other lesbian singles online, and there are quite a few lesbian dating sites to choose from. Not only are there dating platforms like Match and eHarmony that have filters to connect you with other lesbians, but there are also lesbian dating sites out there that can really aid in the search for a match. There are also online chatrooms and message boards that allow lesbian singles to connect with one another without meeting face to face.

For extroverts, it’s fun to get out into the LGBTQ community and connect in person. From frequenting local lesbian bars to shopping at the lesbian-owned bakery, and even participating in Pride events in the community, there are lots of places you can go to meet other lesbians and you might encounter some singles along the way.

Of course, you can always ask your friends. You can bet that your friends will be happy to set you up on a blind date. Because that’s what friends do. And you never know what could happen when you meet up with the friend of a friend….

Most importantly, as you start your search, remember to stick to what you’re comfortable with. If the idea of online dating is terrifying, then stick to meeting people in public. Go with what works for you, otherwise this won’t work.

No matter which method you choose, the following is a list of the top 7 ways to meet lesbian singles in 2019. Remember that you don’t have to stick to one method – cast your net wide and see what you come up with!


Top 7 Ways To Meet Lesbian Singles

1. Asking Your Friends To Set You Up

Asking Your Friends To Set You Up for lesbian singles

Your friends know you better than anyone else. They’re your social group and it’s more than likely that your friends are a good reflection of your interests and personality. That means that when you ask them for help meeting people, they will think about who you are and the kind of person who would be a good match for you.

There are two ways you can get your friends involved in your quest to meet lesbian singles: You can ask them for names, or you can ask them to set you up. That’s right – you could go on a blind date!

When your friends give you the names of people they think would be right for you, know that the people they recommend will have similar interests to you. Be sure to ask questions before reaching out, though. Ask if there is anything else you should know about the people they tell you about, things that might help to make an instant connection.

Keep in mind that when your friends set you up, you don’t want to cause a rift by ghosting someone or leaving a bad impression if things don’t work out. Have an open mind and try to go out with everyone they suggest. It won’t hurt. And you never know, you might be surprised by a spark that you weren’t expecting.

2. Networking With People At Work

Networking With People At Work is a good way to meet lesbian singles

The next go-to social group you can consult on your quest to find a new relationship is your office network. Though they’re not friends or family, you spend a lot of time with people at work and they see another side of you that your friends might not see. That makes them ideal contacts to help you meet more singles.

What’s more is that the people you work with will give your search an even greater reach because they’re not going to be overlapping with the people your friends recommend.

Not everyone has a good relationship with their coworkers, so networking with your coworkers only works if you’re comfortable enough with the people you work with to ask for their advice. In some cases, your coworkers might be closer to you than some of your friends, so be sure to reach out and let them know that you’re looking and they might have someone in mind for you.

3. LGBTQ Community Events

Another option to find events in the LGBTQ community is to search for social groups for lesbian singles on Meetup

Most cities have a Pride calendar of events that take place throughout the year. There are the big parades and weekend festivals, but there are also smaller events happening all the time.

Another option to find events in the LGBTQ community is to search for social groups for lesbian singles on Meetup. Meetup is great because you can find very specific groups, like “single lesbians in their 20s” or “movie loving lesbian singles”, or you can forego the search for singles specifically and just find groups of other lesbians with similar interests. When you hang out, you might meet people you like who happen to be single, or you could meet people who know of single lesbians who might be a good fit for you.

Basically, you can use these LGBTQ community events to get out and be social, and along the way you might meet the perfect person.

The added benefit is that you will be visible in the LGBTQ community and that’s always a good thing. Think of it as adding to your dating profile. You can your dates that you’re a regular at LGBTQ movie night, or that you shop at the lesbian-owned bookstore. When you’re a member of the community, people will know who you are and when they hear you’re single, suddenly you will have lots of people reaching out with people you should meet.

4. Frequenting Lesbian Bars and Lesbian-Owned Businesses

Frequenting Lesbian Bars and Lesbian-Owned Businesses is a good idea to meet lesbian singles

Back in the day, most women went to gay-friendly bars to meet other lesbians. That’s still something that happens today, but there is no shroud of secrecy or need to stay in the shadows. Lesbian-oriented bars, as well as gay-friendly bars, are some of the most popular places to go even if you don’t count yourself as a member of the LGBTQ community.

That said, if you like going out and being social, then going to a bar could be the perfect way for you to meet lesbian singles. Most bars have singles nights and singles-themed games and events, and these are the perfect places to meet other women. You don’t have to worry about awkward conversations because everyone is there for the same reason. There are drink specials, music and dancing, and that’s a great way to connect.

You can also meet people by shopping local, and frequenting lesbian-owned businesses. If you’re a regular at the local lesbian-owned bakery or juice bar, after a while you might mention to your friends that you’re single and looking. Again, you’re casting your net and coming back with lots of new options.

5. Speed Dating

Speed dating is a great way to meet lesbian singles. Every week there are speed dating functions in cities across the country, and you can refine your search to find lesbian-only events.

The best thing about speed dating is that everything is done for you. You submit your profile to the agency that is hosting the event, and when you show up they either guide you to the people you match with or you’re left to your own devices and can talk to whoever you meet.

The agency that runs the event employs professional matchmakers and they will be able to guide you to other lesbian singles who share your interests. If you’re nervous, they can help you work through your nerves.

Since you get to work with professional matchmakers when you go to speed dating events, you have the added benefit of having a real, live person there to help you, which isn’t something you’ll have through online dating.

6. Online Dating

There are quite a few ways for women to meet lesbian singles online

There are quite a few ways for women to meet lesbian singles online. There are platforms created just for women, and then there are traditional online dating platforms that can be used with a filter to match you to other lesbians. You can register for one site, or multiple sites, and see what you come up with.

HER is an online dating site and social media platform specifically for lesbians and people who identify as female. You can look through user profiles, connect on the messaging platform and look for events in your city.

OKCupid and Tinder are great when you’re looking for something casual. Plenty of Fish, Match and eHarmony are all sites that are set up for people to find more long term relationships. None of these online dating sites were designed specifically for the LGBTQ community but there are filters that allow you to search for lesbian singles.

If you’re new to online dating, you might consider sticking to Match or eHarmony initially because they’re both well respected sites that have great success at connecting people. Match is a lot more user-friendly, while eHarmony has a system of questions designed to make a deeper connection through their algorithm.

Keep in mind that these sites all have a free version that allows you to create a profile and look for matches, but in order to really take full advantage of the site’s resources, or to be able to communicate with your matches, you need to upgrade to a paid account. There are options to join for a month or purchase a three- or six-month plan. It’s a good idea to subscribe for at least three months because the process of being matched, communicating and eventually meeting people can take some time.

7. Message Boards and Social Media

Use message boards and social media to find lesbain singles

Chat rooms have gone by the wayside in a lot of ways, but when you have social media platforms that allow users to connect on message boards it’s very similar to the chat rooms of old, with a twist.

These message boards could either be through a Facebook group, or even through a specialized website that allows users to come together to chat. They might not be centered around online dating, so make sure you don’t go to those sites with the intention of meeting people. If you happen to connect with someone who seems interesting, take the conversation off the message board and learn more about each other.

The same can be said of social media. You might meet people with similar interests on Twitter, Instagram or Snapchat. Over time, since you follow people who share similar interests on social media, you might develop friendships with people. You might mention in posts that you’re single, and people might respond to you. Be careful in responding. When you are familiar with the people who respond, then proceed with caution.

It’s quite possible to develop romantic relationships that start on social media, but the same warning applies: These are not dating sites, so if you happen to hit it off with someone, you’re very lucky. Just don’t count on that being the case.


Final Thoughts

Searching for a new partner could be the easiest part of dating. It won’t take you very long to come across women who are a good match, and casting a wide net – especially in online dating – will ensure that you have lots of options to choose from.

The search doesn’t have to be a complicated process. It’s dating! Have fun with it! Go out and meet new people and see what happens. Dating should be fun and exciting, so make sure that you’re having a good time when you go out.

Always remember that you have to be safe when you’re meeting new people, whether in person or online. Never give out too much personal information, and when you meet someone that you’ve first met online be sure to meet in a public place. You always have to be safe, first and foremost! It’s like they always say: You have better luck finding love when you’re not looking. So you never know where you’ll meet other lesbian singles and whether one of them could be the one for you!



Chelsea King
Written by Chelsea King

Chelsea has been a direct victim of romance scams herself losing over $35,000 in a span of a year in 2015. She joined and took over operations of RomanceScams.org in 2015. She brings first-hand experience in studying romance scams, and also experience in vetting dating sites for legitimacy. Read more of Chelsea's articles.

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