Seeking out a relationship after multiple fails may seem unapproachable, but with a little help from a professional, you can be back to dating in no time.
Relationships are complicated, and starting them by finding the perfect man is even tougher. Seeking advice may make you feel incompetent in terms of being a woman worth dating, but It’s not all that uncommon actually. We’re going to cover a book written by Amy North, a woman widely known for her expertise in relationships.
Many women run into this problem daily, so don’t feel that you’re doing something that means you’re incapable of having a quality relationship. While online advice can be helpful to a certain extent, you’re not going to get all of the advice you need in the average 1400 word guide, which is why we recommend the book called The Devotion System.
This book really helps those of you who feel like you’re stranded, looking and looking only to yet again, finding yourself without a relationship. The Devotion System is full of advice, plus proven ways used by the experts themselves. Let’s take a look at what this book has to offer.
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You’ll Learn What Men Want
The first thing that is important before seeking a relationship, is to actually understand what men want out of a woman. Approaching men with something that is completely out of their agenda will not bet you anything other than rejection. This is why it’s important to understand what men want, this way you have a solid sense of confidence, but most importantly, attraction.
The Devotion System explains this in great detail. We all know that there are so many different kinds of men, most seeking many different things in women. If you have the chance to read this book, you’ll have a much better understanding of what to do to make yourself attractive to men, particularly to but not limited to the inside, not fancy attire.
I personally know that one of the worst feelings possible, is the rejection you face, just because of something you did or said to try and have commonality. This backfires sometimes, which is why I really appreciated The Devotion System. It does a really great job at making it easy to implement their tips, without it being awkward!
Distress Signaling Strategy
This may sound a little… Derogatory. Yet it works so well. Men love it when they’re needed. While this is a broad term in regards to the entire concept, it essentially means to make yourself super vulnerable. This doesn’t mean that you’ll need to act a certain way, it just means that you’ll need to expand yourself.
Believe it or not, men are vulnerable too, but it may be a little hard to have him open up, if you’re seemingly very confident. Part of this method teaches you how to become super vulnerable, while still being confident. It’s literally the perfect recipe.
As mentioned before, men love being needed, and if he notices subconsciously that you’re super open and vulnerable, he’ll feel obligated to open up to you as well. It’s almost as if you purposefully drop a glass of wine, only to have him immediately offer to wipe up the mess.
What To Do – And What To Avoid
We know that when we first start dating again, especially after a breakup or a long absence from relationships, that knowing what to do can seem alien. The Devotion System really does a great job in regards to explaining what to do, and what to avoid.
For example, if you originally planned on inviting a guy to a coffee shop on the first date, maybe it would have been better to invite him to go horseback riding. It teaches you to think outside of the box, and how to distinguish what’s best for different scenarios.
Traditionally speaking, dating in its simple form is well, average. If you want to spark something incredible, you’ll need to act accordingly. This is super easy to do, it simply means to be different. It’ll also help you understand what to say in certain situations, helping you to avoid awkward quiet time.
Making it Emotional
Obviously relationships are meant to bring two people together in a strong and emotional way. Yet in today’s traditional tactics, this is now harder to implement than ever. It’s easy to treat dating as nothing more than a number. While it may not be smart to invest everything you have into the first person, you’ll need to make sure the emotional aspect is there, particularly for him.
Men love it when you react in a positive way emotionally. You will learn how to do this the smart way. A way that pulls his guard down and allows you the entrance that is his emotions. A barrier breakdown if you will. It’s hard to understand the emotions of every guy out there, we get it.
The Devotion System is very powerful in explaining this concept. The author Amy North had personally used these tactics with huge success herself, and we’ve seen an overwhelming amount of positive feedback online, confirming our thoughts and experience wasn’t coincidental.
Skyrocketing Your Confidence
Something that everyone can use a little boost in at some point in their lives is confidence. It’s so important in many aspects of life, but especially important in relationships. It helps you approach men, get the conversation going, and continue anything that’s moving your chances of a successful relationship into an even better approach.
Confidence is important because it shows that you believe in yourself, and that you have the ability to connect in ways that are beneficial to you both. The Devotion System teaches this in great detail, growing your ability to learn how to grow confidence, and how to implement it properly.
The last thing you’ll want is to be overconfident or assertive, because this may throw off the guy and make him think your guard is high. You’ll learn how to have the perfect balance of confidence while maintaining that certain amount of vulnerability needed to make men feel invited to do the same.
Pros:
- It teaches confidence.
- It’s cheap, all things considered.
- You’ll learn how to be vulnerable
- It’ll explain both what you should and shouldn’t do
- You’ll learn how to lower his guard
Cons:
- Assertive, but this is subjective.
- Lack of pick up lines
- A little repetitive
Final Thoughts
While dating may seem a little overwhelming, especially if you haven’t been in a relationship in a while, Amy North is here for you. The Devotion System is truly a magnificent guide, which will explain in great detail, everything you’ll need to know when you need it.
The book will help you grow the confidence needed to approach men, what to say when you introduce yourself, and much more. Introducing yourself is only the first part though.
You’ll also learn many strategies that work great in terms of vulnerability and lowering his guard. If his guard is high, you’ll likely have a very hard time truly connecting with each other. Just follow the strategies verbatim, and your success in relationships will undoubtedly skyrocket!
