It would be great to know what other people are thinking, right? Especially if we are talking about romantic life. And even more so if it is just the beginning of a relationship. How often did you meet a person who you considered as “someone special” and wondered if they felt the same? A lot of people can’t stop thinking “Am I special to him?” or “What does she think of me?” on a first date. Unfortunately, you can’t get in other people’s heads and we are not always opening our thoughts to others too. But it doesn’t mean you have no chances to have at least a slight glimpse into what your date is thinking and feeling.
There’s a lot of different advice on the Internet on how to tell if a guy likes you or how to know that a girl likes you. And most of them focus on nonverbal communications and behavioral patterns. Let’s go through some of the signs someone likes you.
1. They’ll Try to Maintain Contact as Much as They Can
People who like each other want to spend as much time together as they can. And if they can’t meet personally, they try to stay in touch anyway. You know, calls, messages and all that. That’s especially true at the beginning of the relationship. If you are texting or calling each other a lot, it’s a very good sign. That means there’s some chemistry between you. Of course, if it is only one-sided texting that might be not so good.
So generally keeping in touch as much as possible is a very good sign for your romantic future.
2. They offer to help you whenever they can
Another one of the great signs someone is in love with you is to care for you and offering help any chance they have. Nothing makes you feel special as much as feeling that someone is trying to take care of you and just generally pays attention to your well-being. If you have that kind of relationship you can stop looking for signs, he thinks about you or the signs she thinks about you. That’s definitely a sure thing you have there. Your partner is totally focused on you.
3. They Make an Endeavor to Touch You Throughout the Day
We often touch people we like. It’s even ingrained in normal social behavior. Handshakes, hugs, fist bumps and other similar things are the proof. Did you see how the happy couples exchange just slight touches? Or picking lint, straightening a tie, etc.? That’s also a sign that those people care for each other. It might go even deeper and be more subtle. Just leaning to or from a person can tell you a lot about whether they like each other or not. And while you might not catch those slight leaning gestures, you can look for those more articulate signs.
4. They Try to Keep Eye Contact
Touching is a very distinct sign that something is going on between people but so is the eye contact. There is quite a lot of actual brain chemistry going on when we look at each other in the eyes. When we look at someone we like, there’s a specific neurochemical being released, called oxytocin, which dilates our pupils (which is detected by other people) and makes us feel joy. So, if someone can’t keep their eyes off you – that’s a pretty strong indication that that person is at least feeling joy when seeing you and talking to you. Combined with other signs, that is one more proof that something is definitely going on.
5. They Notice Your Similarities
We all want to have love and understanding in our romantic life. That’s why we are consciously or subconsciously looking for similarities between our partners and us. That might manifest in a similar taste in music, movies, art or something else. It might also come in the form of sharing similar experiences. If you notice that after sharing a pleasant or not so pleasant experience, your date tries to cheer you up with some similar case from their life, it means they are listening to you carefully and try to empathize. Which is a great thing for a potential relationship.
There’s also a deeper level of this thing and it’s called “mirroring”. People who like each other don’t just consciously look for similarities but they often try to copy each other without even knowing about it. The most obvious example of this is body poses. You can even experiment with it.
6. He/she says “I haven’t felt like this since…”
This phrase, if said honestly, literally means that you are being compared to some of the best moments in that person’s life. Which is a pretty great thing to achieve, right? If a person is looking for a point of reference among the best moments in life that means you are doing something right. Just don’t forget to mention that you are having the time of your life too (hopefully it’s the same for both of you).
7. They hint that they like you
Sometimes, the things you are looking for are just on the surface. While people don’t often say “I like you very much” or “You are very special” at the beginning of the relationships. But people sometimes say something that can give you a hint of what they are really thinking. Sometimes it is intentional and sometimes it’s just a slip of the tongue. Just try not to be nervous because it will interfere with your “detector” of such hints. Listen carefully to what your partner is saying. You will definitely catch the mood of a conversation and where this relationship is going. Learning that you are someone special to a person you are dating or just have started dating is often not the easiest thing in the world.
But either your relationship is going in the right direction or the wrong one, there will be signs you can look for. You can read more about body language, verbal and behavioral hints and try to check those things with your friends. With a bit of practice and focus you can learn to determine where your relationships are going and what exactly you should change if you want people to like you.