FirstMet Dating Review (a.k.a AYI) for 2021: Features, Pros, Cons

FirstMet is one of many dating sites available on the internet today. Its page title states that it focuses on “mature singles,” and its website motto declares that “happiness meets here.”

If you are looking for a low-key, casual approach to online dating, then FirstMet is worth trying out.

FirstMet Dating Review

FirstMet review

FirstMet was founded on July 19, 2005, as AYI (Are You Interested?). In 2012, it won the Deloitte Fast500 Company Award for “achieving notable business goals” in creating the site.

These days, the company has over 30 million people looking to “flirt, chat, and date.” Over three million people have also “liked” it on Facebook.

Several things set FirstMet apart from other dating sites.


If you are new to online dating or simply on the shyer side, FirstMet provides a great bit of assistance. Their “icebreaker” tool offers a variety of opening lines that you can send to people you are interested in to get the conversation started.

This is a great way to avoid the sure-to-leave-them-unimpressed opener of “hi.”

Focus on Similar Interests

One of FirstMet’s main selling points is its intense focus on connecting people through shared interests. Many online dating sites force you to first judge a person on his or her looks and then decide whether to read the profile to find common ground.

FirstMet, on the other hand, gives you the option to search for people who expressly state interest in the same things as you. This method of filtering potential connections immensely increases the chances that you will find someone whom you click with.

A Helpful Blog

Maintaining a blog is not unusual for dating websites. But FirstMet sets itself apart in two ways. First, by how well-rounded it blog topics are. Their writers are constantly sharing helpful ideas and insightful tips on how to achieve success in love and friendship.

Additionally, the blog features dedicated sections for “Dating after 40,” “Divorcees,” and “Single Parents.” Many dating sites overlook or actively ignore these notable subcategories, but FirstMet embraces the full range of people looking to meet other people.

You Control Who You Interact With

You Control Who You Interact With on firstmet

One thing that definitely sets this site apart from many others – such as Tinder – is the ability to find people using the “browse” function, based on mutual interests. Yes, you do also have the “hot/not hot” selection option, but you don’t have to use it.

Instead of relying on an algorithm to find your next connection, by browsing based on mutual interests, the onus is on you. This function is all about browsing profiles and reaching out to those people who pique your interest. In this way, the interaction is much more intentional than the famous “hot/not hot” approach.

Plus, you can contact someone even if they haven’t yet indicated an interest in you. This opens up the possibility of making a connection with someone who might not have initially noticed something special in your profile. Once you start up a conversation, though, you two could very well spark.

Pros and Cons for FirstMet


  • Easy sign up and use
  • Free registration and use with an option for a paid upgrade
  • Icebreaker questions help you start chatting
  • Control who sees your profile to avoid unwanted messages
  • Search for connections by demographic or location


  • Distance tool inaccurate
  • Extremely difficult to cancel a paid membership
  • Not everyone on the site has the same intentions as you

Paid vs. Free Membership Options

firstmet Paid vs. Free Membership Options

One of the great things about this website is that you can register and use it for free.

So many people feel intimidated when they first decide to try online dating and certainly don’t want to pay for taking such a risk.

Once you decide that upgrading is the right option for you, you can choose between a 30, 90, 180 day or annual membership term.

Free memberships users have the ability to do the following:

  • Create a profile
  • Upload photos
  • Browse other users
  • Click “Yes” on users
  • Search by location, age, and interest
  • See who likes you
  • Read messages from Premium users and respond for free

Paid memberships users have access to the following additional site functionality:

  • Unlimited custom communication
  • Ad-free experience
  • Automatic service renewal


FirstMet is an average option among dating websites. It has a large, diverse clientele base and offers some intriguing features. It also falls short in several areas.

It certainly doesn’t hurt to give the free version a try, but be sure that you are committed to the search for romance on this particular website before signing up for the paid membership. It can be rather difficult to cancel your membership if you change your mind.

Written by Bryan Rucker

Brian Rucker writes about all things related to online dating and lifestyle. He has written hundreds of articles, specializing in online dating scams, and has written other fun and exciting topics in the online dating space. Read more of Bryan's articles.

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