When a woman gets pregnant, her whole entire life changes! She has to prepare physically and mentally, not to mention financially. She decorates the nursery, buys clothes and a crib, sorts through baby names, goes to all her doctor’s appointments… The thing is, not every woman has a man by her side through it all. I bet that you were picturing the dad with her doing all of this, weren’t you?
Some women do the whole pregnancy and childbirth and preparation totally alone. Not to mention, if a pregnant woman even thinks about dating, she feels guilty… Why should she get to go out and enjoy herself and meet someone new when she literally is bringing another human into this world? Plus, what type of man would want to even date a pregnant woman anyway?! Set all these assumptions aside, for this is simply not the case.
Just because a woman is pregnant does not mean she doesn’t deserve companionship like the rest of the world! Here is what to expect (no pun intended) when considering dating a pregnant woman who will be welcoming a bundle of joy into the world!
Weighing The Differences
Obviously, women who are pregnant and women who are not are pretty different in many ways. First off, a pregnant woman is… carrying a child. There is a LOT of baggage that comes with that. It doesn’t have to be all negative, I’m just saying assess the situation before getting fully involved! Women who are not expecting a child have a lot more freedom and nothing really tying them down, whereas a pregnant woman cannot drink or partake in the party scene really. She’s probably exhausted just from walking around and wants to sleep and eat her raging hormones away. Non-pregnant women are more likely to want to indulge in the hanky-panky, but a pregnant woman may see that as a serious no-no for lots of reasons (or maybe not, but it’s ultimately up to her!).
Dating can prove to be difficult as it is, but add a child into the mix, regardless if it’s here yet or not, can add a lot of different types of complications to what would normally be a healthy relationship. You may not be ready for kids; she may be looking for something serious whereas you’re just looking to date casually. The list goes on! Pregnant women are hormonal, sick, tired, and not totally in love with their bodies. There are a few pros and cons we will go over so you can make the decision whether you are ready for this type of commitment or not!
Pros Of Dating A Pregnant Woman
She is ALWAYS down to eat
If you don’t know what you want to do for a date– take her to her favorite restaurant! Really, you could probably take her to any restaurant, for that matter. Pregnant women are hungry like 99% of the time (if they’ve made it past the morning sickness!) so you can count on her being ready to eat anytime. Just assume she’s hungry, ask what she’s craving and go about your day.
Tends to be more mature
Forget everything you know about dating– since you’ve probably only dated girls who only care about their appearance, what the most expensive new beauty trend is, or anything of that nature– you can count on an expecting mother (more often than not) to be mature way beyond her years. She is giving up that previous lifestyle in order to properly raise a small human into a responsible adult, and participating in worldly or childish trends simply just gets in the way of preparing for a new life! Now I’m not saying she isn’t allowed to have any fun, she’ll just have to be comfortable with getting a babysitter first!
Already is planning ahead
Since Mama has no choice but to be ready for anything and everything, she has likely packed an entire nursery full of diapers, wipes, clothes, bottles, toys, and a ton of other surplus items she’ll need for her baby. With that being said, mothers have this thing where no matter where they go, they have to plan WAY ahead, and they’re always overprepared. So, if you think you guys are just going to have a relaxing day at the beach, be ready to carry 6 different bags, chairs, a table, a cooler, extra clothes, extra towels, 4 different types of sunscreen, among MANY other things!
Cons of Dating A Pregnant Woman
Well… the baby isn’t yours
This is probably the big one. What’s it gonna be like to be in a relationship with a woman who is carrying a child.. that you had zero part in creating? That can seem a bit weird, and may even be considered taboo, but the fact of the matter is– it can be totally normal! Whether the father of the child is involved or not, you can have a healthy relationship with a woman who is expecting. It may be a bit rough at first, but things will smooth out over time, if you’re willing to give it a chance!
You may be expected to “step up”
Say you’ve fallen for a woman, and she is literally EVERYTHING you could ever want in a person– sounds like a dream come true, right? The kicker: she’s pregnant; and it’s NOT yours! No, this doesn’t call for an episode of Maury, because you knew beforehand that you’d have a third wheel at all times.
The only thing you know for sure, is that you are crazy about her and you want to remain in a relationship with her. However, what do you do if the father is completely nonexistent? You may inherit his responsibility to care for this baby and, if you begin your companionship early on in the pregnancy and you two are serious, you might even be asked if you’d like to be added to the birth certificate *GASP!* Responsibility! Don’t fret– just be sure to discuss ALL options prior to the birth with your partner to make sure you both stay on the same page throughout.
There may be drama
Another possibility to consider is the fact that the baby’s father will be actively in his or her life– in that case, you’d need to be prepared to deal with everything that comes with that! Most men aren’t incredibly crazy about the idea of the mother of their child re-entering the dating world, but you may luck out and land a lady with an ex that just doesn’t possess that dreaded jealousy trait!
Nevertheless, there are guys out there who may try to stir the pot with you, or will make sure that you know who the father is; the chances are, this will all fizzle out over time and you will all come to a civil compromise.
5 Secret Tips To Win Them Over
Any woman can be swooned one way or another, but a pregnant woman? They have specific wants and needs! Here’s how you can keep your woman happy and in your arms?
1. Feed her plenty!
Always have snacks, or her favorite meal cooked when she comes over. Pregnant women LOVE food!
2. Respect her boundaries
Be as active, or inactive, in her pregnancy as possible, whichever she prefers. You may find yourself feeling uncomfortable at first, but you’ll get the hang of things!
3. Pamper her
Rub. Her. Feet. I cannot stress this enough, they are swollen and in pain, please just take 30 minutes out of your life to take this stress off of her! She will appreciate it more than you will ever know.
4. Don’t judge her
If she’s craving pizza with chocolate chips and a 64 oz. slushie at 3 in the morning, you had better go get it! Pregnant women have the strangest cravings, and when I say cravings, I don’t mean a little hankering for something– I mean it in the way where you want something so badly, everything you eat does virtually nothing compared to what that odd combination of foods would do for you. Feed that woman!
5. Help out a lot
Help her with the nursery! If the walls are bare, paint them! The dresser hasn’t been assembled yet? Go at it! Even if she just needs some help organizing, it’s something you can both do together and maybe even have fun doing it!
Regardless of how strange or taboo it may seem to pursue a relationship with a woman who is bringing a baby into this world, it will be unlike anything you have ever experienced in your life. You will watch this woman transform into a mother and whatever feelings you may have for her will now deepen beyond measures!
Not only that, but you’ll have a sweet new little buddy to play with and watch grow! If you have cold feet about dating a pregnant woman, I genuinely hope this all changes your mind!
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