Finland is a country that’s full of beautiful things: unusual natural phenomena, beautiful forests that you can explore to your heart’s content, a peaceful and prosperous society, fun events, and a vibrant food scene.
There are many reasons why anyone would fall in love with such a beautiful country. But what about the men — are they just as dreamy?
It’s never good to generalize or stereotype. Nonetheless, there are a lot of traits that most people who grew up in the same country will share.
Today, we’re going to take a close look at the most common characteristics that Finnish men share, both the good and the bad.
So, whether you’re interested in dating a Finnish man or are just curious about how they are, this article is for you.
Things to Know When Dating a Finnish Man
Finns are known throughout the world to be very reserved men. They may not be as wild as your regular Latin Lover. But, they’re not dull and insipid introverts, either. In general, Finnish people take pride in being very kind, talkative, and hospitable.
They’re full of cool stories, and most of them have lived wholesome lives, which makes them very happy people.
As with everything else, there are several pros and cons to dating a Finnish man. Finns have a lot of cool things about them, but they also have a few things that might be unattractive to some people.
I’m going to fill you in on the most popular pros and cons.
By the end of the article, you’ll have a solid idea of what Finnish men are like. You’ll have enough information to decide whether dating one would be right for you.
Pros of Dating Finnish Guys
If you like someone who won’t be all over you all the time, who believes in gender equality, and who only talks when necessary, then dating a Finn might just be the thing for you. Here’s a list of the top five pros of dating a Finnish guy.
They Are Humble, Yet Very Talented People
Finnish men are known to be humble and not take praise for their achievements very well. They believe that discussing salaries or boasting about their accomplishments is somewhat rude. They won’t likely say they’re outstanding at something.
Humble people are usually very easy-going and down-to-earth individuals. Finns don’t often like to be praised because their culture promotes a healthy sense of equality, and boasting about one’s achievements may come off as arrogant and vain.
However, this by no means implies that they haven’t achieved brag-worthy deeds. In general, Finnish men are very intelligent and avid outside-of-the-box thinkers.
Being humble is great when in balance, but it can also turn into a bit of an annoying thing if done excessively.
They Respect Gender Equality
As I mentioned above, Finnish culture is very egalitarian-oriented. It is the norm to stand for gender equality in its full sense. Finnish culture doesn’t dictate what roles women and men should play in society.
Finnish women are independent and accustomed to choosing what role they want to perform in their families. Finnish men are okay with this, and they, too, can choose to be stay-at-home dads without losing any of their masculinity because of it.
It isn’t likely for a modern Finnish man to say something like, “A woman’s place is in the kitchen and taking care of the kids.” They won’t make fun of one of their friends for being a male nurse, either.
They Are Hard Workers
Finland is a small country, but its economic power and craftsmanship are recognized and respected throughout the world.
This recognition comes from the fact that Finns are notably hard-working people. They will not settle for mediocre results and will yield excellent results when given a chance.
It doesn’t matter if they’re carpenters, lumberjacks, writers, or coders, you can rely on a Finnish man to not cut any corners and get the job done efficiently and effectively.
Naturally, a woman will associate a hard-working man with responsibility and dependability, all great things to have in a partner.
They Are Nature-Lovers
Another common trait among Finnish guys is that they love places with beautiful natural spots, and they enjoy activities that are related to nature.
If you think about it, it makes perfect sense, too. With Helsinki being the only significantly large city (with over 1 million people), nature is abundant in Finland, and its residents can explore it freely, to their heart’s content.
If you’re dating a Finnish man or want to take him out on a date, ask him out on a calm fishing trip, or to do some kayaking and mountain trailing. An impromptu photography tour somewhere beautiful is sure to delight almost any Finnish man.
If you love nature and being out in nature, you can almost certainly say that you’ve already got something in common with your Finnish crush.
They Are Usually Very Handy
Remember what I just said about Finnish men being hard-working people? Well, that trait comes with a bonus.
Because they like to work hard, Finnish guys usually know how to do a lot of things around the house. Not only this, but they’ll get the finest materials and tools they can get to deliver high-quality results.
Even if they’re not experienced at it, Finns are very used to DIY approaches and will learn and master a skill very quickly. It doesn’t matter if your guy is a computer programmer or web developer (which is common among Finn millennials), he’ll likely enjoy taking on a home improvement project or two.
Cons of Dating a Finnish Man
Okay, so far, Finn men sound dreamy. With their down-to-earth personalities, refined wits, and useful abilities, it’s hard to imagine how there could be anything to dislike about them. Nonetheless, duality exists in everything.
Like with any other culture, there are a few things that most people would find unattractive in the average Finnish man.
They Won’t Open-up to You Easily
Having a little mystery around one’s life can be alluring, but not knowing anything about how the man you’re dating feels can be very frustrating as well. Finns are not usually very talkative when it comes to their internal worlds.
They generally don’t like to bother other people with their feelings and issues. If they’re sad, angry, frustrated, or anxious, they very likely won’t say anything about it to anyone. However, this doesn’t mean that they’ll stay quiet if they perceive unfairness or deceit in something.
But make no mistake. While it’s true that Finns are generally very reserved, they can also be confrontational if someone tries to take advantage of them or their loved ones.
It’s highly doubtful that they’ll break into a violent outrage, but they most certainly won’t be afraid to speak up when needed.
They Love Self-Deprecating Jokes
I met a Finn guy once who made the following joke when I asked him if it was true that all Finnish men were stoic:
“Well, I’ll put it like this: A shy Finn looks at his shoes when he talks to you; an outgoing one looks at your shoes.”
I thought the joke was witty and funny, but I later came to realize that it simply wasn’t true. All the Finnish men I know have no problem looking at me or anyone else in the eye and, although some of them are a bit introverted, they know how to handle themselves well in any social setting.
Those kinds of jokes are abundant in Finnish culture. They have tons of ways of putting themselves down in a comic manner. A little humbleness and sense of humor never hurt anyone, but these types of jokes give people who don’t know any better the wrong idea about Finnish men.
They Love Exceeding Themselves
Unnecessarily intense saunas, substantial meals, working until it isn’t healthy anymore — Finnish men take pride in surpassing their limits and can be extremely competitive when motivated.
Don’t get me wrong, having a competitive mindset is good, but Finnish men might overdo it more often than not. The stereotypical stubborn Finn comes from this inclination towards excessive behavior.
Although not knowing when to stop is generally a negative thing, it can also have some very positive applications when it comes to intimacy.
The typical Finnish man is very likely to be well educated, somewhat reserved, and down-to-earth — an overall balanced person. If you love nature and consider yourself a calm and intelligent person who enjoys dry humor, then a Finn might be an excellent match for you!
Close to Finland is Norway. Make sure to check out our guide on dating a Norwegian man.