Everyone gets strapped for cash every now and then. Most people will offer to babysit or clean houses for extra money, or do what they can to get a better paying job or even a raise at the job they’re already at. When all else fails and none of these are an option, some people will turn to one of the most dangerous professions out there: dealing drugs. Check out the details on dating a drug dealer.
The Dangers of Dating A Drug Dealer
Sometimes life just throws curveballs at you, one after another, and you will be drowning in copious amounts of debt, not sure how to escape.
The very last resort could be to start selling drugs. This is an extremely dangerous game, however, so if you ever find yourself in a situation where you are in a relationship with someone who deals drugs, there are a lot of things you should consider before pursuing the relationship further.
You may be put in imminent danger
Whether you’ve been in a relationship with this person for years and they have come to the decision to begin drug dealing while you are already together, or you’ve begun a relationship with someone who is already heavily involved in this lifestyle, the risk remains the same. Y
ou never know what types of people you will be dealing with, so you need to be prepared for the absolute worst. If you have children, it is in their best interest that you steer clear of this situation in order to keep them safe.
No matter how “good” someone is at dealing drugs, a customer is bound to have some sort of discrepancy someday and could come after your partner, or even worse, your family. This needs to be the main thing considered in this situation!
ALL drugs are illegal; one isn’t better than the other!
While marijuana has become legalized and decriminalized in several states, it is still illegal to be sold and bought on the streets. In states that it’s still illegal, you can still go to prison for quite awhile if you are in any way involved in the dealing, even if you aren’t physically present for any of the deals. Just knowing of the dealings can land you a spot in jail for being a type of accomplice.
Having drugs in your house, especially when you have children, is very dangerous. Police can search your home with no warrant nine times out of ten if they get tipped off by an upset customer. You really can’t be too careful when it comes to such a delicate subject like this.
Even if it’s “just marijuana”, cops don’t care how helpful it can be medicinally or your political stance on the subject; they just know it’s illegal (in most states) and that the sale of it outside of a dispensary is unlawful. No amount of marijuana or ANY drug is worth going to prison for.
Your partner may start doing the drugs they sell
This is a major red flag. It’s one thing to sell the drugs to people, but to actually do them and become addicted as well as sell them is a double whammy!
You absolutely do not want to be in that type of situation, and you definitely do not want to become addicted to drugs yourself. You can completely ruin your life if you become dependent on an illegal substance, so it is something you should avoid at all costs. I am not referring to marijuana that is legally used in moderation in LEGAL states, both recreationally and medicinally.
Arrest records are forever
One day, you may get caught up with your partner and his/her dealing habits, and they may not take the fall from you. It is human instinct to protect your own self, so don’t be surprised if your partner spills the beans that you knew and were aware of dealings at all times. If you happen to get arrested and/or convicted on a drug charge, those don’t just go away.
You can kiss any chance of having a great career goodbye, and people just won’t look at you the same way. If you are absolutely dead-set on getting involved with a drug dealer, it is best to not ask any questions and to make clear that you are not to be involved in any way (including just giving information about deals/customers) so that if you are called to testify, you can honestly say you had no idea about any of it.
There are, however, some jobs that will hire ex-cons and those convicted of drug charges, called second-chance companies. They are not incredibly common and you will be exceedingly lucky if you happen to stumble upon a job that offers this that matches your desired pay; don’t rely on that hope, as it is close to impossible to rebuild your life after jail when it comes to drugs.
You could be put in harm’s way
I cannot stress this one enough. You do not want to be present in the event of a drug deal gone bad. There is no telling what sort of weapons could be used and also no way to know what the people your partner is dealing with are capable of. You could be sitting at home one evening just trying to enjoy your life, when out of nowhere bullets fly through your walls, it’s a drive-by shooting.
That isn’t a situation that anyone wants to be in! Furthermore, if you don’t happen to get murdered while being involved in this line of work, you could be kidnapped and held for ransom (not to mention the other horrific things that could be done to you while you are in the hands of kidnappers), with absolutely no way of knowing if you’ll ever make it out alive. It’s honestly just not worth the risk.
Your partner may not be trustworthy
You might love your partner with all your heart and trust them with your life, but when it comes to the drug game, anything can happen. You never know what someone is capable of until they are put into a life and death situation, and in that case they are very likely to choose their own life over someone else’s, yes, even yours.
No matter how safe, loved and happy you may feel, you are always at risk at all times. It can cause serious anxiety and even emotional turmoil to have to deal with something like this. Ultimately, you will make your own decision in the end, of course, just be mindful and try not to trust anyone with your life too easily.
They aren’t suited for parenthood
It’s one thing to make the decision to pursue a relationship with a drug dealer, but it is a whole other universe when it comes to bringing children into the picture. Sure, the money flow will be nice and your kids will be set for life, but consider the consequences.
Your partner could be talking business on the phone and be unsuspecting of the small child in the room with him… fast forward a few days and your kid goes to his kindergarten class saying “my daddy sells coke; he was talking to a man about getting a whole bunch of coke for $10,000!”
While your child’s innocent mind thinks his daddy was talking about Coca Cola, the teacher will likely catch on if she happens to be listening, and this can trigger a call to Child Protective Services. You could lose your child/ren all because they overheard a phone call. Now, do you see that as being worth it? Take some time to consider this before pursuing this dealer any further.
If you’ve ever been curious as to exactly what drugs are the big sellers and other vital information you’ll want to know when pursuing a drug dealer, these are some pretty important statistics you should consider when making your decision:
- Methamphetamine – 24%
- Cocaine – 24%
- Marijuana – 22%
- Crack – 13%
- Heroin – 10%
- Oxycodone – 5%
These are the percentages of drug trafficking offenses that occurred in the United States. You don’t always feel the severity of drug dealing until the names of all the drugs are just slapping you in the face. I’m not trying to be brash or really even talk you out of anything– I just want you to proceed with EXTREME caution, knowing everything you possibly can before entering or continuing your relationship with a dealer.
Other miscellaneous statistical evidence includes:
- 50% of convicted drug traffickers who have been caught had little to no prior criminal history
- 47.9% of those convicted were Hispanic; 26.7% were African American; 22.3% were white
- 96.3% of dealers who were convicted faced a MINIMUM of 72 months in prison, depending on the type of drug; biggest penalties were for crack cocaine and meth, while the lightest sentences were given to those who were arrested for marijuana-related offenses
In this day and age, you don’t only have to worry about the big scary drugs like cocaine, heroin and meth– the party drugs that are “harmless” if only done a few times will land you in the slammer for just as long as these “grown up” drugs.
Ecstasy, angel dust, LSD, acid, molly… all these drugs have the potential to take over your entire life and send you to jail for a few years, depending on how much your partner has either manufactured or sold. They may be called “party drugs”, but I can assure you it is NO party where you’re going if you are convicted as an accessory.
There is a silver lining!
If you find yourself in love with a drug dealer, and he/she loves you just as much, you will be absolutely set for life financially. You can travel the world together, buy a huge house and nice cars that everyone covets, and not to mention the unlimited shopping sprees!
You will have the time of your life and feel a type of high from it– even without the drugs. You will feel like you are on top of the world, forgetting all the potential consequences of you and your partner’s lifestyle.
Also, you likely won’t be messed with, if your man is someone who is not only well-known but feared in his turf. Regular people tend not to tread on drug dealers, under the assumption they all have tons of guns and a trigger-happy finger. Although that’s not always the case, sometimes it feels nice to know people think that way.
Most importantly, BE CAREFUL!
Your heart may be absolutely dead-set on being with this person– and that is fine! If it’s true love, it’s true love. There are a few ways you can be careful in this situation to keep yourself as safe as possible!
- Stay out of all the illegal business, PERIOD. Don’t do any “runs” or deals for your partner; as a matter of fact, just act like you have no idea about any of it!
- Don’t go bragging to ANYONE about your drug dealer partner or your lavish lifestyle. It may seem fishy to some, especially your family, but you have to keep it all on the down low to avoid the public eye
- As cliche as it may be, try and keep photos of you and your partner off of social media if he is deep into the drug game. The less proof that you are involved in any way, the better.
- Don’t be petty if you break up! This means no calling the cops or spreading the word about your man’s “business”. This could potentially ruin his life and he may want to quit one day and turn his life around. This would absolutely hinder his chances at a normal life
In conclusion, it probably isn’t the greatest idea in the world to date a drug dealer, but the heart wants what the heart wants. Just know the facts, the consequences, and most importantly, the dangers it could bring along with it!