Chat Lines For Dating: All You Need To Know in 2021!

Look, we know it sounds old school and perhaps a little shady. We’re here to separate the wheat from the chaff. And we’re telling you, especially in our current time of quarantine, meeting and chatting people over the phone has never been more opportune.

So what are chat lines, exactly? No, they’re not the adult 900 numbers you remember from the ’80s and ’90s. These are more conspicuous and dating focused. According to chat line dating experts, they’re a combination of dating apps and dial-in adult phone services. The context and content need not be sexual in nature, but they can be if that is what you are into! Most of the time, there is a strong sexual element. 

Where does the combo come into play? It works like a dating app in that you are matched with locals in your area. However, it’s not something that is based solely on visual cues and shallow opinions. This is because you actually get to converse (yes, with your voice!) with the person you’ve matched with! Refreshing, isn’t it?

Ok, So How Do Chat Lines Work?

Start By Introducing Yourself with a Greeting

Start By Introducing Yourself with a Greeting

It starts with a recorded greeting. You can think of this as you would think of setting up a dating profile. In your recorded greeting, you can introduce yourself and talk about your likes, dislikes, passions, hobbies, etc.

You also include the type of experience you are looking for. If you are seeking something similar to phone sex or to find someone to fuck, you can express that. If you are looking to get to know someone, you can express that as well!

The greeting is really where you get to shine and it’s important if you are looking to make good matches! Turn on the charm, pull out the sexy voice, and let people know you’re ready to go! Almost anything goes; however, you can’t be discriminative based on race or use the platform to engage in any illegal activity. No assholes, please!

Listen to other greetings

Once you have your pre-recorded greeting exactly as you like it, you can go ahead and listen to other greetings! You’ll be able to listen to greetings until you feel turned on by another person’s voice or feel inclined to reach out to that person.

Chat or leave a message!

Most chat lines give you the option to set up an immediate live phone call with the person or leave them a message by pressing 1 or 2 on your phone dial. In your message, you can describe what you liked about the other person’s voice or message. If instead, you choose to have a conversation, you are welcome to do that! The beauty of the Chat line is that everyone is in the same boat. And please, don’t give out your phone number.

What do you do if you don’t like someone’s message

That’s easy! Chat lines allow for a ‘skip’ button if the person’s message doesn’t get you going. Most of the time, you’ll hit the number 3 on your phone to bypass someone who isn’t right for you or your needs.

The Hotlist

Many Chat lines will allow you the opportunity to add or take people off of your hotlist. A hotlist can either be used as a way to keep tabs on people you are into, or a way to avoid running into people you’ve decided you don’t like at all. A number on your phone dial will be the designated hotlist number. You’ll press it to add a person (which means you’ll be notified when they are online) or remove a person (which means you will effectively exclude interaction with that person).


Like every other form of virtual dating, there are dangerous people who may pop up. This is not something you should have to worry about! There will always be a way to block another person from ever getting in contact with you again through the Chat line.


Chat lines are an amazing alternative to apps such as Tinder or Bumble because you get to hear another person’s voice!

There’s a level of authenticity that simply is not reached in the world of swipe apps. More than that, planning to meet up comes to fruition more often because there is an investment from either party when you begin to have a conversation with someone. When you do meet up with someone, make sure to consider your safety above all else.

Consider meeting first in a public place and getting comfortable with the person over the phone. If you move from the chat line service to your social media pages or real numbers, consider facetiming the person or vetting them in some other way. Truthfully, this should be the standard for any form of virtual dating applications or chat lines.

Now that you know what it’s all about, it’s time to go explore! Enter a new form of dating where the possibilities are endless and the singles in your area are not there to waste any time. It’s a level of transparency that has not been around in the dating sphere for quite some time!

Written by Angela Carpenter

Angela Kaye Carpenter has a knack in writing about relationships. She brings years of expertise in this space. She has served as the Sr Marketing Copywriter at JDS Marketing, and Marketing and Content Writer at Vertu Marketing, Offix, Suburban Snapshot, and The Gillenwater Group. You can find her on Twitter. Read more of Angela's articles.

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