Nowadays, it doesn’t seem to be quite as simple as it used to be to meet women who are interested in a courtship with you. Sometimes, you’d be able to pick up chicks at a bar or just message them on MySpace and call it even, but it just doesn’t work that way anymore. Women have become a lot more aware that they are worth a lot more than just a few cheesy pickup lines, and those lines your dad used to play don’t work anymore.
Pursuing a woman simply for a quick hookup likely won’t always work out in your favor, unless you’re lucky and find a woman who is looking for the same thing as you– but chances are, she wants to be chased. There are plenty of ways you can meet women who are after the same thing you’re in search of, and it isn’t as difficult as you may think!
Meeting Women in Public Places
While the world is practically consumed with technology, women still like to know that a man shares the same interests as her, and to prove that, you could take up some of the same hobbies that she indulges in.
There are all kinds of different places you can meet women in order to respectfully court them, and plenty of ways that you can go about doing it, too. The whole “hey, sexy, can I get your number?” jargon does NOT appeal to the modern woman here and now, so you’ll need to try and develop a new approach. Don’t worry– we will get into all of that shortly!
For now, you can learn where exactly to meet women who may interest you, and what sort of places they can be found at!
I know it may seem silly, but this is actually one of the most common places you can meet women! You’ll have all sorts of different options; from single moms to college girls, and everyone in between. Of course, you won’t want to just walk up to a strange woman and ask for her phone number; you’ll have more luck if you just strike up a normal, friendly conversation with her. Maybe start a conversation about a product she’s looking at, or ask her for recommendations on something you’re considering buying. Either way, this is a safe, cautious approach, and if she seems completely uninterested, it’s best to just politely apologize for taking up any of her time and walk away.
Yoga Classes or the Gym
Don’t do this if you aren’t ready to make yoga or working out a big part of your life. Attending yoga classes or just hitting up the gym can set you up with all sorts of potential prospects, and you will of course want to use a similar approach that you would in the grocery store. Don’t interrupt whatever she’s doing– try and wait until she’s done with her routine or class, or if you see her struggling to figure out a workout machine, possibly walk over and offer your help. You also don’t want to seem like a showboat, so dress as modestly as you can (I get it, you’re at a gym, so that can be hard to do– but a woman may not be too keen on allowing a shirtless beefcake to hit on her relentlessly when she’s just trying to get her workout done) and take a hint if she isn’t into it.
Whether you’ve ever held a paintbrush in your life or not, taking art classes lead by an instructor is a really fun experience, and a great way to meet women! Compliment her art, ask polite questions, but don’t try and offer suggestions unless they’re welcome. Remember your boundaries, and keep in mind that she may be taking this class to relieve some stress and unwind. You don’t know what someone is going through, but if she seems like she is in good spirits, then you probably wouldn’t be wasting your time striking up conversation.
Bars and Clubs
Since the beginning of time, men have been picking up women in places of drinking and dancing, and that tradition still stands! There are many different ways you can approach a woman at an establishment such as this without coming off as a common creep who has nothing better to do than try and pick up chicks at a bar. You ALWAYS want to offer to buy her a drink of her choice, THEN have a conversation with her. If she seems standoffish, just go on about your evening and take the loss.
Dating Sites, Apps and Social Media
Many couples have had successful relationships from meeting on Facebook, Match, Tinder and many other platforms online. Dating websites and apps have made such a huge impact on the dating world, that it’s almost more common to meet someone online than it is in person. You have tons of options available at your fingertips, but we will just name a few!
As one of the leading dating websites on the entire web, Match is the largest and oldest of all dating sites. There are thousands of success stories available for you to read since their foundation in 1995, most of which end up in marriage! You’ll have an extremely specific, personalized profile that you can edit to match your exact preferences so you can find exactly what you’re looking for.
This is one of the best platforms to meet women, simply because its algorithms and matching system really works! You won’t be matched with someone you don’t at least have a few things in common with, so it’s not like you’ll just be meeting a bunch of women who have zero common interests with you.
Match offers a few tools and accesses for free, but if you want a truly amazing dating experience on this site, you’ll want to upgrade to a Premium membership. You will gain access to any and all of the site’s amenities, which are all catered to ensure you meet someone amazing!
Not far behind Match whet come to popularity and user base, Zoosk is yet another great platform to find single women! You can browse women online from the comfort of your own home, and send messages back and forth as you please. It’s free to sign up and use this site, but in order to access all of Zoosk’s unique tools and amenities, you’ll want to vie for a premium membership.
Tinder is likely the most popular dating app, whether you’re looking for a quick and fun experience, or something a little more long-term, you’ll likely find what you’re searching for here.
This app is the birthplace of the swipe left/right philosophy that is so heavily used in the dating world today, and the user base is constantly growing. You can meet all kinds of women, readily available and looking to have a good time with you!
How to Win a Woman Over in 2019
Like I stated earlier, you can’t simply use your age-old cheesy pickup lines to get women interested in you; you have to take a more modern approach. They don’t go for the guy who believes he has to be waited on hand and foot by his woman, or the guy who has a much-too-close relationship with his mother. Women are a lot more independent and strong-willed than they used to be, so understanding that you would be entering a 50/50 relationship is an extremely important key when it comes to trying to win over a woman.
Be a gentleman, but don’t cross boundaries
A lot of women consider themselves feminist, so they possess the mindset that they, believe it or not, DON’T actually need a man to open doors and take their coats for them. Instead of just assuming that this woman will not mistake your gentlemanliness for arrogance, simply ask, “Would you like for me to get the door for you?” and if she politely declines, then go on with your life. It may be hard to kick the habit, but she will likely understand.
Be a feminist
No, feminism is not the belief that women are superior to men, but rather the opinion that men and women should have equal rights to one another. You’ll definitely need to support equal rights and women’s rights, not just to meet women, but to be a better person in general.
Give her all your attention
Seeming unavailable and unattentive is NOT attractive, and it will not make your woman think you’re playing hard to get. A lot of women have recovered from heartbreak at least once in their lives, so just playing with her emotions and giving off the vibe that you’re just leading her on is not cute. Don’t completely emotionally invest yourself into a woman you just met, but DO, however, make yourself available to her for whatever sort of emotional support she may need.
Be an active listener
Making yourself available emotionally goes hand in hand with being a good listener. When you’re starting a relationship or courtship with a woman, you will be getting to know one another and will learn new things about each other every day. Remember when she mentions her favorite things, like colors, movies, foods, etc., because those facts can come in handy one day! Maybe surprise her one evening and have her favorite dinner cooked for when she gets home from work, or take her to see that movie she’s been talking nonstop about for the past two weeks. Didn’t she say something about being almost out of her favorite lipstick? Pay attention to the brand and color and replace it for her! You may not get everything exactly right, but it’s the thought that counts.
Singles’ Tips & Tricks for Meeting Women
When your outings at the grocery store seem to be filled with more misses than hits, and online dating just isn’t your thing, then there are a couple more things you can do to meet women! There are events all over the country that are coordinated specifically for singles looking for other singles, and you can check to see if there are any local events going on near you!
You can find out quickly and easily if there are any speed dating events near you: simply just type “speed dating events in (your city)” into your Google searchbar, and you’ll get results galore! Smaller towns are even known to host them sometimes, and if there just aren’t any in your area, always check neighboring towns, too.
Check out our ultimate guide to dating in the U.S.
Niche Dating Events
There are even more specific, customized options you can check out as well in order to meet women who are more likely to share your same interests. Tons of locations host events for target audiences; for example, you could Google “singles events for yoga enthusiasts” or “singles events for dog lovers” and you may just find something coming up in your area. This site has different events that are constantly updated as they happen, and it shows events for most major cities in the country!
You can always ask your friends!
Who knows you better than your own circle of close friends? It could be a good idea to reach out to them to see if they happen to know any available women that would be interested in you, rather than try and meet a total stranger and starting from scratch. It’s also more likely for your friends to know what you like and dislike, so you’ll know they’re good judges of character when it comes to your potential date.
With all of these readily available platforms just waiting for you to try them, the possibilities are endless when it comes to finding a date! If you can go through all of these options and try at least 2 or 3 of them, you’ll surely have luck of some sort, and maybe even a successful date or two!